Flexibility

I had an email from my Grandma yesterday. She and my grandpa are serving as temple president/matron in Brazil at the Recife temple, and she wrote that if we could postpone our date for a few days or a couple weeks, then they both could come up for the wedding and my grandpa could be the sealer. I would love for that, and I had been looking forward to that possibility ever since I learned of their new calling. This is the reason we chose a date around conference because that's when their temple closes for maintenance and they're allowed to travel. But then I was told that if anyone did come up in April it would only be grandma, if at all, due to finances. So Felipe and I went ahead and decided on March 31. It shouldn't be any question at all for us to change our date for the opportunity of my grandpa being the sealer, but I just am so sad about losing March 31. Irrationally sad. Felipe and I both got attached to the date and love the way it sounds. I know I'm being dumb but this is a hard decision for me. When talking with Felipe he said that he loves March 31 but knows how important it would be for me to have my grandparents there and left the decision completely up to me. So I don't know.

Some problems with later in April:

1. I hate the idea of getting married in April. Everyone in Provo either gets married in April or December, and I don't want to be just another BYU wedding. Petty reason, I know, but the idea of an April wedding just grosses me out (don't be offended if you like it aka Katelyn and Sarah)

2. We're trying to accommodate some of Felipe's family members who would have to travel here from Chile. It's hard to gather people from different continents and coordinate schedules.

3. If we postpone we will be getting married right before or during finals. At least with March 31 we had a couple weeks (2) of classes left before finals week.

4. The longer we wait to get married, the longer we have to wait for Felipe's greencard, meaning the longer he's not able to work after graduation. If we get married March 31 he has three or four weeks where he can still work for BYU before he graduates and his student visa is illegitimate.

Benefits of later in April:

1. My grandparents can come to the wedding of their first grandchild

2. My grandpa can seal us

3. School will be done or almost done so we won't have that stress right when we're married (just in the final weeks when preparing for marriage)

4. If one of us gets a job for right after graduation, we can get married and leave. If we're married March 31 we'd have three weeks where we'd be essentially homeless.

Bottom line, I still don't know. I emailed my grandma and asked for the dates of when the temple will be closed and they can come up, so maybe that'll help.